Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, (book link below) challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want in this video presentation for TED. Our “psychological immune system” lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t go as planned.
I am going to diverge from my usual spiritual and psychological articles to do a little advocacy. It would be nice if people began to realize that there are many good men out there as there are good women.
I do not often link to other articles but I thought the following article in Time magazine was well written and balanced in its approach. Somewhat of a storm has been going on recently between women who oppose feminism and feminists. Those that oppose feminism rightly point out that feminism is no longer about equality. It consistently makes out men to be perpetrators and females victims. This is despite the fact that there is an abundance of research to suggest otherwise. For example, over 300 studies have concluded that when it comes to initiating domestic […]
When most people think about synchronicity they often assume that the synchronicity is like a road sign that attempts to point the person in a certain direction. That the direction is often deduced as something occurring in our outer world is frequent. For example, a set of synchronicities may give rise to the belief that a new relationship is around the corner or a new job. It is relatively easy to see why we often come to such conclusions. For instance, we might be pondering buying a new car and in the next few days or weeks a certain model of car might appear in our lives on a frequent basis. We then make a decision based on the belief that buying a new car is what the universe intended for us. When it comes to synchronicity we are especially prone to ascribing the phenomena as a sign from […]
As some of the regular readers of this site might be aware I like to game on my pc. In a certain game I play (called Wildstar), I have been keeping a frequency count between people who follow etiquette and those that do not. To clarify a little further, there is an unwritten rule in gaming that if someone clears an area to get to a designated object/reward/loot then that person has the right to claim the loot/reward/object. Usually clearing an area involves killing a virtual enemy or a pack of virtual enemies. The reason it is an unwritten rule is that typically the person clearing the area is doing the necessary work in order to obtain the reward.
Some players do not follow the unwritten rule. While another player is engaged in fighting they go ahead and obtain the reward for themselves. Certainly it’s not the greatest travesty to […]
What I find most beautiful about myself, inside and out, is:_____?
I am sometimes asked, what people can do at a practical level to improve their lives. An accurate answer is that there are many things that can coalesce in such a way as to improve one’s lot in the world. One of these involves our inner chatter.
An analogy I sometimes employ is to ask people to think of their ego as a puppy dog. Like a puppy it asks for attention, it can be mischievous and adorable all at the same time. There are multiple reasons why I use this analogy. One of the main reasons is that in thinking of our ego as a puppy dog, it allows us to observe ourselves without getting caught up in all the commotion. It breaks up the identification with our inner chatter and allows for second person self-talk.
For example, when I am confronted with a difficult task my self-talk revolves around “you can […]
Dean Radin who does a lot of good solid research into psi, shares his extraordinary personal story of synchronicity. I have a couple of synchronicity experiences that match Dean Radin’s, so it comes as no surprise to me to hear stories like this. I will share my thoughts on synchronicity in a future post. For now have a look at the video.
Have you ever forgotten an important appointment or event? Or alternatively made a careless but innocent mistake around something which by rights called for more attention on your behalf. It is the type of incidence where we honestly believe we simply forgot or made an innocent mistake. Yet because of the importance of the event we should not have forgotten or been so careless.
Often when this phenomena occurs we consciously know the detrimental consequences of forgetting something important to us, but we remain unconscious as to the payoff involved. Consider the following real life example. A friend’s daughter got the date for one of her university exams mixed up. Subsequently, she failed that course for that semester. In her mind and for that matter her parents mind this was an innocent mistake.
The negative consequence are easily seen – a failed semesters worth of work in a specific subject. That […]
Emotional Contagion seems to be one of those buzz concepts at the moment thanks to already infamous Facebook study. Emotional contagion is when two or more people synch in to each other emotionally. A good example is when we first fall in love, our behaviours, emotions and thoughts often are in synch with the other person. A type of convergence occurs in the relationship. Research studies have confirmed the phenomena of emotional contagion as a ‘real’ thing.
It is important to note that the term is not saying we are only affected by other people’s mood – for instance, if someone is in a bad mood, we might alter our behaviour in some way. Rather the term means we take on something of the others persons mood – at a very simple level, if they are in a bad mood, we experience a bad mood as well. I think the […]
For no particular reason other than for something to ponder if people so desire here are a couple of questions to throw at oneself;
What is something you’re afraid is true about yourself?
What are you missing when you are overly concerned with the self?
Do you have dreams at night, or are the dreams, dreaming a you?
If you were not worrying, what would you be thinking about?