Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Sexual Trauma: Healing the Sacred Wound – Peter A. Levine PhD

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Peter Levine is one of the leading experts on trauma and somatic releasing.  The somatic component is often overlooked in working with trauma, but it is essential to healing and thriving in life.  The video gives a small exercise to practice as  a way of beginning to releasing some past trauma.

Note:  The number of 1 in 4 people being sexually abused mentioned in this video is not correct.  It should refer to all forms of trauma and not specifically sexual trauma where the incidence is less frequent than 1 in 4 but still way to high in our society.

Tuesday, April 15th, 2014

Getting Advantages

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If all you can think of is getting advantages, you’re always losing. You have pillows in your mind which prevent you from seeing how weak and vulnerable you are. You’re sitting in a little corner in your mind thinking you’re safe. You’re not. You’re only lying to yourself.

True goodness is only what is higher than your present nature. As an exercise, see how your dress and words and behavior are constantly telling everybody who and what you are. Since imagination has taken the place of reality, you must first destroy imagination in your life by listening to yourself, watching yourself behave, actually catching yourself in your secret thoughts with your hidden motives. This is so you can in time learn what is good for you, so you can choose the right over what is habitual and easy and popular. All that has to be broken down by something you […]

Sunday, April 13th, 2014

Existential Bummer

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Excellent video by Jason Silva.

Sunday, April 13th, 2014

The Fallacy of Strong Willpower

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We are often encouraged to use willpower to achieve success in life.  Wether conscious willpower actually exists is highly contentious in the first place.  But let’s for a moment assume that it does exist.   The difficulty with trying to use willpower is that it is a weak force.  When we try and use willpower to achieve an aim it almost always never works.  For example, research demonstrated that if we ‘will’ ourselves to avoid temptation we are far more likely to surrender to the temptation than not.

Additionally, how well we can use our willpower depends largely on our visceral activation.  For example, if we are hungry we find it more difficult to resist foods that may not be good for us.  The hungrier we are the more difficult it becomes.  Research has shown this is true in many areas of our lives, i.e., sex, thirst, tiredness, drug-craving etc…

The next […]

Friday, April 11th, 2014

EMDR Video

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I have been receiving a few queries about Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and how it relates to psychotherapy and/or growth.  Similar to the person on the video when I first heard about EMDR a few decades ago I thought it was bogus.  However, there is now an abundance of scientific evidence that overwhelming supports its effectiveness.  EMDR is a technique that has grown on me over the years and I now use it regularly with clients when the situation calls for some EMDR intervention.

It essentially facilitates an altered state of awareness which for some reason (we do not know why as yet) seems to produce a neurological effect in the brain which is conducive to releasing trauma.  It is a very good tool to use with people who have been traumatized and or are stuck in life in some way.  As the video demonstrates it originated as […]

Thursday, April 10th, 2014

Putting Out Fires

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You may well be able to observe a house on fire with perfect detachment.  But that alone will not put out the fire.

Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Listen for the Quietest Sound

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A good way to learn to slow down and begin to pay attention to our lives is to listen for the quietest sound.  Really pay attention to the quietest sound you can perceive and try to make it a daily practice for an extended period of time.  

Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

The Immanent and the Extrinsic

By |Wednesday, April 9th, 2014 |Spiritual|2 Comments|

We engage in a dialogue with the greater than us (God/Absolute) only to ultimately discover we have been talking to our deepest self.  It is for this reason we engage in the process of seeking and dwindling away our egos.  The process is essential to the finding.  Without the process, our ideas and beliefs become abstractions and remain only at the simplistic level of belief.  The finding by necessity entails a communication and dialogue between the immanent and the extrinsic.  Though it may initially appear as a paradox, it’s wise to note that God/Absolute is omnipresent.  It is both within and extrinsic simultaneously.

For our spiritually to really matter, it must be experienced on a daily basis as a living presence in our lives.  We must feel it deep within our being.  But we must also extend it outwards to others with compassion, empathy and kindness.  In this way we […]

Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

The One That Got Away

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I ran into an ex-girlfriend recently.   During our conversation she mentioned that she should have married me.  In her mind, I seemed to be the “guy who got away”.   Its feedback that I have received a few times previously.  The way they frame it to me is interesting.  It’s almost as if I escaped a fate worse than death – ‘marriage’.  The truth of the matter is that back then I would have loved to have been married and have a family.  But that is back then and these days I am enjoying being single too much to even remotely consider marriage or living with someone. 

Receiving feedback of this nature may be ego inflating, but it’s important to remember that the relationships did not last.  Each in turn broke down and each had it reasons for breaking down.  Still it’s nice to hear that you left a […]

Tuesday, March 18th, 2014

Our Malleability and Potential

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A number of years ago I read a book entitled Multiple Man: Explorations in Possession and Multiple Personalities.  It is one of those books that has always stuck in my mind because it facilitated some deep thinking on the nature of what we call ‘self’.  In particular, it highlighted how malleable we are as human beings and underlined the enormous inherent potential we carry within us.

Consider some of what is observable in people with dissociative personality disorder.   A person who has dissociative personality disorder has multiple identities who typically have become so fragmented that in effect there is a discontinuity between one identity and the next.  To understand this more fully consider that you the reader also consist of multiple identities which get played out as roles.  For example, you may be a very different person at work than you are as a parent.  Even in a work role […]