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Wednesday, August 27th, 2014

Trying to Control Others

By |Wednesday, August 27th, 2014 |Psychology, Spiritual|0 Comments

There is an article in one of today’s papers here in Melbourne Australia.  In it there is a self-proclaimed overweight person who likes to wear outfits that show off a lot of her skin.   Provided she is not breaking any laws, she should be able to wear what she likes irrespective of her weight .   Her weight or clothing or lack of them is not the issue I wish to raise here.

The difficulty with her mentality is that she asks people to not objectify her for what she wears and how she looks and then in the same article asks for people to tell her she is beautiful.   In the same vein, she asks people to (mostly) keep their comments to themselves but later asks for positive remarks in comments.  Her contradictions are many.

In the same article she also tells people to not stare and judge her.   She is […]

Tuesday, August 26th, 2014

Come Play with Me

By |Tuesday, August 26th, 2014 |Psychology|0 Comments

I tried to teach my child with books.

He gave me only puzzled looks.

I used clear words to discipline,

But I never seemed to win.

Despairingly, I turned aside.

“How shall I reach this child?” I cried.

Into my hand he put the key:

“Come,” he said, “Play with me.”

Author unknown (adapted by Aletha Solter)

Monday, August 25th, 2014

Three Common Responses to Life’s Difficulties

By |Monday, August 25th, 2014 |Psychology, Spiritual|0 Comments

When we are confronted with a powerful stimulus which pushes our buttons and we have not dealt with our inner demons, there are three typical responses:

  1. The most common response is to repeat the pattern.  An example would be growing up in a violent household and then later in life finding ourselves repeating the pattern – we may find that the stimulus pushes us into a pattern of anger.  It does not necessarily have to be an exact replication.  It could be that a person was bought up in a physically abusive environment but later in life they may replicate the pattern through verbal or financial abuse. The more unconscious we are of the underlying factors involved in the pattern, the more difficult it is to shift.
  2. Another common response is to go against the grain.  We might make a promise to never be like our parents and attempt to act […]
Monday, August 25th, 2014

The Blank State

By |Monday, August 25th, 2014 |Psychology|0 Comments

In this TED talk Steven Pinker argues that all humans are born with some innate traits which can vary from individual to individual.  His proposition that the the brain is not a blank state at birth upset many people.   In the video, Pinker talks about his thesis, and why some people found it incredibly upsetting.”

 

Sunday, August 24th, 2014

Waiting

By |Sunday, August 24th, 2014 |Psychology, Spiritual|0 Comments

People wait

All week for Friday,

All year for Summer,

All of life for Happiness.

Author ~ Unknown

Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Small Steps

By |Wednesday, August 20th, 2014 |Psychology, Spiritual|0 Comments

Most people approach happiness as if it is a bad diet.  They metaphorically starve themselves of it then eat all they can in one sitting.   Rinse, Repeat.

The real key however is to build it slowly but surely with small but necessary steps. In this way it becomes a part of our foundations rather than a fleeting binge.

Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

The Art of Kindness

By |Wednesday, August 20th, 2014 |Psychology, Spiritual|0 Comments

I have no idea how the video relates to life insurance other than it being an advertisement, but the acts of kindness within the video resonate deeply.

Monday, August 11th, 2014

Some of my Favorite Books on Pain and Pain Relief

By |Monday, August 11th, 2014 |Psychology, Science|0 Comments

I was asked if I could recommend some good books on dealing with pain. There is a couple listed below that come to mind. I have a favorable disposition towards dealing with pain via hypnosis. This sprung from doing a master’s thesis on pain where I learned a great deal about the applicability of hypnosis. When it comes to pain, hypnosis is a particular efficient and powerful technique which often surpasses the effects of many medications. For most people it also tends to work better than many alternate approaches including mindfulness meditation.  If people are having difficulty with pain, my first port of call is working with the person via hypnosis.  Ernest Rossi who was a student of Milton Erickson has a terrific way of dealing with pain and for that matter  life’s problems.  Do a google search for him and see if any of his books appeal.

Sunday, August 10th, 2014

A Peice of Truth

By |Sunday, August 10th, 2014 |Spiritual|0 Comments

One day Mara, the Evil One, was travelling through the villages of India with his attendants. he saw a man doing walking meditation whose face was lit up on wonder. The man had just discovered something on the ground in front of him. Mara’s attendant asked what that was and Mara replied, “A piece of truth.”

“Doesn’t this bother you when someone finds a piece of truth, O Evil One?” his attendant asked. “No,” Mara replied. “Right after this, they usually make a belief out of it.”

Friday, August 8th, 2014

The Brain in Love

By |Friday, August 8th, 2014 |Multimedia, Psychology, Science|0 Comments

If you have not watched Helen Fisher’s TED talk on the Brain and Romantic Love, I highly recommend taking some time to view it and digest the findings.   Informative and insightful.