The following is a short but powerful technique which can help to clarify goals, values and life choices. Imagine that you are the only person contained within a void. There are no rules, no obligations, no need to conform to the expectation of others. While we can never be free from the influences of the past, try as best as you can to imagine that the sole authority for any choice is you. This choice is unhindered by the past and free from the expectations of the future.
Let us use an example to illustrate. A person might be faced with a choice between choosing a career between becoming a medical doctor or a lawyer. Given the above conditions, a choice is more likely to reflect something which the person resonates deeply with. Or perhaps they find that neither choice is particularly appealing. They might try contemplating other career paths, possibly some that they may not even have considered previously. What we are looking for is a resonance which strikes a chord at a deeper level of being. It doesn’t have to be earth shattering; it just must have a sense of rightness to it.
We can extend the same exercise to values. Would you still value love given the conditions previously specified. How about honesty or something which seems to be important to you.
The idea is to become more aligned with things which you value by imagining them to be free of context. Give it a try and let me know how you do with this exercise.